Support for you, as a parent, when your child is self-harming
Speek Ally is a structured support programme for parents and carers, guided by experienced clinical psychologists.
Practical, empathetic support for you as a parent. We help you understand what’s happening and feel more confident at home. Over time, parents notice calmer moments, safer conversations, and more confidence in knowing what to say and do.
Over 400 families helped
Support for parents referred by NELFT, ELFT, and Black Country
Over 400 families helped
Support for parents referred by NELFT, ELFT, and Black Country
Over 400 families helped
89% of parents report
increased confidence
What Speek Ally is
What Speek Ally is
Speek Ally is a structured support programme for parents and carers of young people who self-harm. It offers a safe and private space where you can learn, ask questions, and get support.
Speek Ally is designed to support you in your role as a parent. It does not provide therapy for your child.
You are being invited because you are supporting a child who is self-harming, and your NHS trust thinks extra support for you could help.
The programme includes:
Guided learning, clinician support, and connection with other parents
Support shaped around your situation
Support from clinicians with NHS experience
Four months of NHS paid access for parents referred by NELFT and ELFT
Flexible use, so you can take part at a pace that works for you
Content and support provided in English
Access through a mobile app, with the option to use the web
Your information is kept private and secure, following NHS standards
Speek Ally is not about being a perfect parent. It is about helping you feel steadier, better informed, and less alone as you support your child.
Speek Ally is a structured support programme for parents and carers of young people who self-harm. It offers a safe and private space where you can learn, ask questions, and get support.
Speek Ally is designed to support you in your role as a parent. It does not provide therapy for your child.
You are being invited because you are supporting a child who is self-harming, and your NHS trust thinks extra support for you could help.
The programme includes:
Guided learning, clinician support, and connection with other parents
Support shaped around your situation
Support from clinicians with NHS experience
Four months of NHS paid access for parents referred by NELFT and ELFT
Flexible use, so you can take part at a pace that works for you
Content and support provided in English
Access through a mobile app, with the option to use the web
Your information is kept private and secure, following NHS standards
Speek Ally is not about being a perfect parent. It is about helping you feel steadier, better informed, and less alone as you support your child.
Speek Ally is a structured support programme for parents and carers of young people who self-harm. It offers a safe and private space where you can learn, ask questions, and get support.
Speek Ally is designed to support you in your role as a parent. It does not provide therapy for your child.
You are being invited because you are supporting a child who is self-harming, and your NHS trust thinks extra support for you could help.
The programme includes:
Guided learning, clinician support, and connection with other parents
Support shaped around your situation
Support from clinicians with NHS experience
Four months of NHS paid access for parents referred by NELFT and ELFT
Flexible use, so you can take part at a pace that works for you
Content and support provided in English
Access through a mobile app, with the option to use the web
Your information is kept private and secure, following NHS standards
Speek Ally is not about being a perfect parent. It is about helping you feel steadier, better informed, and less alone as you support your child.
How it works
How it works
When you join Speek Ally, you get clear and ongoing support.
You have access to:
A personalised learning pathway, based on what you want help with
Regular calls with a clinician to talk and get support
Secure messaging with your clinician between calls
Practical tools and ideas you can use at home
A private community forum with other parents
Optional online group sessions with other parents, guided by clinicians
Speek Ally supports you step by step, in a way that fits around your life.
When you join Speek Ally, you get clear and ongoing support.
You have access to:
A personalised learning pathway, based on what you want help with
Regular calls with a clinician to talk and get support
Secure messaging with your clinician between calls
Practical tools and ideas you can use at home
A private community forum with other parents
Optional online group sessions with other parents, guided by clinicians
Speek Ally supports you step by step, in a way that fits around your life.
When you join Speek Ally, you get clear and ongoing support.
You have access to:
A personalised learning pathway, based on what you want help with
Regular calls with a clinician to talk and get support
Secure messaging with your clinician between calls
Practical tools and ideas you can use at home
A private community forum with other parents
Optional online group sessions with other parents, guided by clinicians
Speek Ally supports you step by step, in a way that fits around your life.
How it helps
More confidence in how you respond
Many parents feel clearer about what helps their child. Over time, it becomes easier to know what to say in hard moments.
More confidence in how you respond
Many parents feel clearer about what helps their child. Over time, it becomes easier to know what to say in hard moments.
Less fear and overwhelm
As things start to feel clearer, overwhelm can reduce. Parents often feel steadier when emotions run high.
Less fear and overwhelm
As things start to feel clearer, overwhelm can reduce. Parents often feel steadier when emotions run high.
Feeling less alone
Many parents realise they’re not the only one going through this. Support from clinicians and other parents can make things feel less heavy..
Feeling less alone
Many parents realise they’re not the only one going through this. Support from clinicians and other parents can make things feel less heavy..
What Parents Say
Stories from parents who felt more supported with Speek Ally
“I think I would be in quite a different place if I hadn't joined Speek. I think I would still be nervous. I would still be scared."
Mum of 17-year-old with ADHD
"Speaking with a clinician who had worked in CAMHS was a turning point. For the first time, I felt like someone understood not just my daughter's struggle, but mine. The advice wasn't just clinical, it was human."
Father of a 14-year-old with autism
"For a long time, I feel like I was drowning in all the emotions that came with what was going on [...] It (n.b. Speek) just created a space that made me feel seen, heard, understood. It was everything I needed.”
Mum of a 13-year-with two siblings
“I think it, it really has just opened the door to me, understanding my child better than I ever thought I could. Which is what counts. Because when you know someone you see them, and I can see her.”
Mum of a 11-year-old who went through 4 clinical services
"Hearing that other parents felt the same guilt was a huge weight off my shoulders. I stopped feeling like a failure and started feeling like I could handle this."
Mum of a 10-year-old who was on the CAHMS waiting list for 18 months
“I think I would be in quite a different place if I hadn't joined Speek. I think I would still be nervous. I would still be scared."
Mum of 17-year-old with ADHD
"Speaking with a clinician who had worked in CAMHS was a turning point. For the first time, I felt like someone understood not just my daughter's struggle, but mine. The advice wasn't just clinical, it was human."
Father of a 14-year-old with autism
"For a long time, I feel like I was drowning in all the emotions that came with what was going on [...] It (n.b. Speek) just created a space that made me feel seen, heard, understood. It was everything I needed.”
Mum of a 13-year-with two siblings
“I think it, it really has just opened the door to me, understanding my child better than I ever thought I could. Which is what counts. Because when you know someone you see them, and I can see her.”
Mum of a 11-year-old who went through 4 clinical services
"Hearing that other parents felt the same guilt was a huge weight off my shoulders. I stopped feeling like a failure and started feeling like I could handle this."
Mum of a 10-year-old who was on the CAHMS waiting list for 18 months
“I think I would be in quite a different place if I hadn't joined Speek. I think I would still be nervous. I would still be scared."
Mum of 17-year-old with ADHD
"Speaking with a clinician who had worked in CAMHS was a turning point. For the first time, I felt like someone understood not just my daughter's struggle, but mine. The advice wasn't just clinical, it was human."
Father of a 14-year-old with autism
"For a long time, I feel like I was drowning in all the emotions that came with what was going on [...] It (n.b. Speek) just created a space that made me feel seen, heard, understood. It was everything I needed.”
Mum of a 13-year-with two siblings
“I think it, it really has just opened the door to me, understanding my child better than I ever thought I could. Which is what counts. Because when you know someone you see them, and I can see her.”
Mum of a 11-year-old who went through 4 clinical services
"Hearing that other parents felt the same guilt was a huge weight off my shoulders. I stopped feeling like a failure and started feeling like I could handle this."
Mum of a 10-year-old who was on the CAHMS waiting list for 18 months
“I think I would be in quite a different place if I hadn't joined Speek. I think I would still be nervous. I would still be scared."
Mum of 17-year-old with ADHD
"Speaking with a clinician who had worked in CAMHS was a turning point. For the first time, I felt like someone understood not just my daughter's struggle, but mine. The advice wasn't just clinical, it was human."
Father of a 14-year-old with autism
"For a long time, I feel like I was drowning in all the emotions that came with what was going on [...] It (n.b. Speek) just created a space that made me feel seen, heard, understood. It was everything I needed.”
Mum of a 13-year-with two siblings
“I think it, it really has just opened the door to me, understanding my child better than I ever thought I could. Which is what counts. Because when you know someone you see them, and I can see her.”
Mum of a 11-year-old who went through 4 clinical services
"Hearing that other parents felt the same guilt was a huge weight off my shoulders. I stopped feeling like a failure and started feeling like I could handle this."
Mum of a 10-year-old who was on the CAHMS waiting list for 18 months
“I think I would be in quite a different place if I hadn't joined Speek. I think I would still be nervous. I would still be scared."
Mum of 17-year-old with ADHD
"Speaking with a clinician who had worked in CAMHS was a turning point. For the first time, I felt like someone understood not just my daughter's struggle, but mine. The advice wasn't just clinical, it was human."
Father of a 14-year-old with autism
"For a long time, I feel like I was drowning in all the emotions that came with what was going on [...] It (n.b. Speek) just created a space that made me feel seen, heard, understood. It was everything I needed.”
Mum of a 13-year-with two siblings
“I think it, it really has just opened the door to me, understanding my child better than I ever thought I could. Which is what counts. Because when you know someone you see them, and I can see her.”
Mum of a 11-year-old who went through 4 clinical services
"Hearing that other parents felt the same guilt was a huge weight off my shoulders. I stopped feeling like a failure and started feeling like I could handle this."
Mum of a 10-year-old who was on the CAHMS waiting list for 18 months
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Is Speek for me OR my young person?
The Speek parent support programme is designed for you, the parent or carer of a young person who self-harms. Many young people aren’t ready for help, and even when they do receive professional support, families are often left out. Speek fills that gap - giving you the guidance, tools, and confidence to feel more grounded and supported, so you can create the calm and stability your young person needs to heal.
How is this different from standard therapy or counselling?
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Who’s behind Speek, and what makes it effective?
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